Loving Connections

A friend once commented on facebook, "It's been so good to spend time with my sister and the kids. Briana has helped so much with the funeral preparations and been so open with her home to Katie and myself. I don't know how we would have gotten through this without her support. I have the best sister in the world!!! Oh, and I just love how she and Katie are great friends, they have an awesome connection and it pleases me so much."

I replied, "That is beautiful, Diana. I'm so glad that you have a sister like her. We need those loving connections between the ones that we love just as much as we need the loving connection between ourselves and the people we love."

One of the things that I took for granted in the past was having 
loving connections between the people in my life. Since I changed my life and lost so many relationships, I have realized the importance of that connection. There is a lot less stress in your life when everyone in it is in sync with one another.

 Being in sync doesn't mean that you agree on everything or that you never have disagreements. It just means that you trust one another's good intentions, give each other the benefit of the doubt, and discuss things before drawing conclusions.

My ex-husband and I disagree on some things. We don't always get along. Sometimes we get mad at each other. But when we talk about our intentions and the reasons we did things, and very importantly, when we admit that what we did may have been hurtful or could have been done differently, things smooth over real quick.
I have that same wonderful relationship with fiance'. We talk things out. We assume that there wasn't any harm meant when a potentially hurtful situation arises. We trust each other.
And I am so very blessed to witness this same confidence and compassionate relationship between my ex and my fiance'. Not to mention seeing this trust between my children and my fiance', and my children and their father.
Solid, loving, trusting interconnections are beautiful works of art that require maintenance and are so very worth the effort.